(March 5, 2007)
1. I'm shallow as hell, and I'm coming right out and admitting it, I really don't care, because I know most of you out there are pretty damn shallow, and there's no way around it, so you have to be cute, at least in my standards, and my standards really aren't that high, at least I don't think so, but I'm not willing to lower them, sorry.
2. You must have common sense, and be somewhat intelligent, I don't care about booksmarts, I mean, it's not all about the facts, as long as your intelligent in a sense that's real, not an idiot, or someone that has to make shit up just to sound intelligent, it actually makes you look worse, I want someone with creativity, no dull, boring guys please. I love having deep or meaningless conversations, so be ready to talk about anything and everything even if it can lead to a disagreement or arguement.
3. I shouldn't have to talk to you every second of every day, that's annoying, and clingy as hell. I don't need to see you every single day of the week, I'm not saying I wouldn't want to, but it's not always a necessity. I need space, and don't say you miss me after just seeing me, unless we're not going to see eachother for a long time, and by a long time, no, I don't mean the next day, I'm sorry but I'm not the type of girl to like that sorta thing. No I love you's please until it actually means something. Let's just stick with 'I like you' for a while. I'm trying independent, I don't need someone hanging on my every word.
3. Religion isn't a big factor to me, it really doesn't matter what religion you are, as long as you doesn't preach about it, and don't mind the fact I have an open mind, and that nothing I believe is concrete, and that I'm agnostic. I don't want you to get the wrong idea, I have my beliefs and for the time being I'll stick with them until someone proves otherwise that there's something I should truely believe and be commited to, I highly doubt that'll ever happen.
4. You must have a sense of style, and be clean kept, not clean cut. There's a difference in those meanings. No, I don't mean clean shaven, I just don't want to date anyone that isn't clean, that doesn't shower, and just acts and look like trash, that's not for me, I just like good hygeine, nice teeth, you know, the works. You don't have to be absolutely gorgeous, looks aren't everything, but I take care of myself, so I'd expect the same amount of effort from you.
5. Right away, if I can sense some actual racism, or homophobia in you, you're out of here. You don't need to hide it, I can sense these things pretty quickly. I need someone with an open mind, and someone to have acceptance. I hate discrimination too, what would give you the right to do that? Freedom of speech, bullshit, that's a privelege, and no, it shouldn't be used in a negative way, unless that's necessary, and most of the time, it's not.
6. I like a guy with a sense of humor, someone that can make me laugh and smile a hell of a lot. But at the same time, you need to know when the right time is to stop. I don't like someone that just goofs off all the damn time, and doesn't know when to knock it off, learn how to, or fuck off. Humor isn't the cure to everything, deal with it.
7. You don't have to have your life planned out, trust me, I don't even have it figured out, but you should have dreams, and goals, I don't like a guy going absolutely nowhere in life, and dragging me down with them, I have hopes, I have dreams that I one day hope to fulfill, you can't get in the way of that, I don't want to be the one that has to support you, moneywise, I mean, I don't mind spliting costs, or even paying sometimes, but not always, I won't be with a brokeass lowlife, sorry. And at the same time, I'm willing to provide for myself, you don't owe me anything.
8. Honesty is key rule, I don't forgive as easily as it may seem, but I do give out a lot of chances, unless you did something majorly out of line, you'd still have as many chances as you started with. But no lies, please, I understand that everyone lies, but when it's not necessary and it's going to get you in trouble, think before you speak or do.
9. You don't own me, and I don't own you, not everything in our lives need to be connected. If I don't like your friends, tough luck, if you don't like mine, it's not the end of the fucking world. I'm not looking to date your friends, I'm looking to date you, so it shouldn't matter if I like them or not, and likewise. Besides I can get along with people fine even if I don't like them, so you should be able to do the same.
10. Don't be a pussy, have the integrity to stand up for yourself when it's needed. If I can do that, you can do the same. I won't let my guard down, and neither should you. Crying is a sign of weakness, but there are points in someone's life where it's necessary, please just don't make that point every single day. I'm sorry, but as long as some tragic event didn't happen, you're life isn't hell at all, don't take for granted how good you have it, I don't. I hate whiners, don't whine to me about some stupid bullshit, I won't have sympathy for you.
11. I like music, but I don't fake what I like, I'm not afraid to admit what I like, and I don't believe that music defines the person you are. So don't lie to me and tell me you either like something or don't like something, when you actually don't or you do. I don't need to be impressed intentionally. If you're what I'm looking for, that's all I need.
12. Partying, you don't have to be a heavy partier to catch my attention, I'd rather you not be, but I don't mind it, as long as you don't use it as an excuse to get out of something, because I won't buy it. I'm not stupid. You have to know when it's time to party and when it's time to just sit back and relax. I don't party all the time, and I don't want to. I'm also a smoker, and I drink sometimes, you either have to be able to deal with that, or find a way to convince me to quit, good luck.
13. We shouldn't have to clarify our feelings for eachother by saying it all the damn time, the feelings should be there, and some things really might be better left unsaid. And no fucking way to a conjoined myspace account. Don't be shady, sneeky, or sketchy. I'll be able to tell if you're losing interest, and you'll definetely be able to tell if I am.
If you're up for a challenge, go right ahead, I know this makes me sound really mean, but I'm really not, it also makes me sound really damn picky, but these are qualities guys should have anyway whether or not it matters.
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